Single Black Women and Relationships in the Media — The Positive and The Negative, Plus Dating Tips From The Black Carrie Bradshaw
The relationship status of single black women has been one of the hottest topics in the media lately. Reporters around the world are even discussing the issue. Most of the media pits men against women with one group being blamed by the other for the lack of quality, successful relationships that ultimately lead to intact Black families. I’m including two examples below. One takes on a negative approach while the other one takes a positive spin on the topic.
ABC’s Why Can’t Successful Black Women Find a Man – Tonight on Nightline (ABC 11:35pm).
Sherri Shepherd, co-host of ABC’s “The View,” and Jacque Reid, star of VH1′s “Let’s Talk About Pep,” will debate “CSI” star Hill Harper, and Jimi Izrael, author of “The Denzel Principle” on why many successful black women cannot find a man. One of the moderators is Steve Harvey. Questions asked include:
- Are black women’s expectations too high?
- Who’s to blame, black women or black men?
The Washington Post did a great article with Essence Magazine’s Relationship Editor and A Belle in Brooklyn blogger Demetria Lucas titled “Dating Guru Demetria Lucas, Pointing the Way to Eligible Black Men“. Lucas acknowledges that it may be difficult for some women to meet men based on statistics, she also believes that women who are friendly, and who make themselves approachable will meet men.
Dubbed “The Black Carrie Bradshaw”, Lucas has created a list of dating tips for women. Some of the tips are listed below.
- Smile and say “Hi.”
- If you want to meet a man, look like you want to meet a man. . . . Lip gloss and a comb never hurt anyone. Use both liberally.
- Men don’t notice you across a room because of your brain. Give them something to look out for.
- Flatter your best asset. If it’s your smile, smile. If it’s your legs, wear a skirt.
- Stop looking for men in bunches like at the club or happy hour. Men are everywhere, on the street, in line, in the elevator, on the train . . .
- Go out alone. (But be safe.) I know you just thought “Hell, no!” Try it, just once.