Wifey ???
OK, a reader wrote to me venting her frustrations about the new relationship category of “wifey.” It seems as though we now have the categories of: single, married, divorced, and has-a-wifey. It’s a peculiar moniker indeed for one’s significant other. It actually sounds rather sweet. It seems to occupy the space between girlfriend and wife. But to me, it signifies exactly what’s wrong with relationships today.
(I’m not sure if this term has permeated the white community yet, but like everything else black folks do, its coming.)
Now at first glance it would seem that calling someone your “wifey” is a compliment, an expression of their commitment to you, an elevation of you from girlfriend to something more. But upon further examination of what this term means and who exactly benefits from the designation, the “wifey” title is revealed to be a total and complete cop-out.
In a culture where committed relationships are rare and marriages even rarer, it seems that men and women are settling for a cheap imitation. Wifey is often described as “not your only, but your favorite” or “wife material.” I had a friend of mine who told me that he reserves expensive gifts for wifey and gives the other women cheap things. But unfortunately, the “wifey” designation is not a stepping stone to marriage, it’s the final stop. The notion of commitment has morphed from being with only one person, to having one special person that you treat a little better than the others. And you know whats really scary: women are eating that sh*t up! (More)